WHEN and WHY is best to let go of relationship trauma.
I am sure that someone told you at some point in your life ‘’You need to let go’’. Maybe it was a person or a situation, but you needed to ‘’let it go and move On’’. A dearest person that I know would correct me and say ‘’Let go and move Forward’’. However, what I am going to talk about in this article is the idea of letting go, when it is best to do it and why.
Letting go means finding inner freedom and healing. When you let go of your anger, unforgiveness, bitterness, or simply of that person who means the world to you, you let love heal your wounds and show you the way. You do not let go for the others, but for yourself. Letting go sets you free, and gives you the opportunity to move forward with your life. If you hold onto a person, or a feeling, they will always drag you back or keep you still. You want to move forward, not remain still. You want to fall in love again, and have fun again. You want to smile and enjoy the little things. Again. You want to be kind and able to give love to yourself and others. While you’re holding on to that bitterness, you will not be able to give love.
Now, when is it best to do it? Well, whenever feels right for you, whenever you are ready to do it. Letting go is maybe one of the most painful experiences you will have. It feels like something inside you dies, and it leaves you empty. Sometimes it feels unfair that you have to forgive that person who hurt you and never said sorry. Sometimes you don’t wanna accept that your love for a person is not enough for them to love you back. Sometimes it’s even harder to accept that the people who hurt you will never admit it, but you need to let that frustration go.
Because I am a therapist and I know the importance of letting go, I will tell you that you need to do it as soon as you realise it’s consuming your energy and eats you alive. Usually when we hold onto something that does not belong to us, it will never find its place within us. What happens is that we feel drained and have no idea why, or get triggered by anything that reminds our subconscious of our unresolved trauma.
Because I am a human being and I got to understand that everything we do is a process, I will tell you that you will let go when you will be ready to do so. Until then, you will cry, scream your pain out, be sad, think about the person you love every time you hear a familiar sound, feel that smell, or see that thing. You will get angry every time when you will remember how bad that person hurt your feelings, and how they made you lose yourself. That is more than normal. It is natural, and it’s called healing. After you’re done doing that, I have faith that you know that the next step in your healing process is letting go. And when you will be ready, you will. Let no one tell you when to do it, but let them remind you that you need to do it.
— Refusing to let go is refusing to heal our mind and soul —
Why? I think I already highlighted a few factors that respond to this question, and I also believe that you know why. Before you had that experience, you were full of life, you were spreading love and seeing the positive all around you. You were inspiring others with your energy and you were protecting yourself at all costs. What happened? I don’t know your exact circustance, but I can tell you that you still are that person, you just need to choose your focus.
— You can only pure out of a full cup, so fill yourself with life and joy —
Let go because it keeps you still. Let go because it brings sadness and bitterness into your life. Let go because it hurts you and changes you from the inside out. Let go because you deserve happiness, freedom, and peace.
These are a few of my reasons why I chose to let go, and maybe yours are the same or different. You can take a piece of paper and write those down, and read them out loud to yourself, and then.. Let go and let love.
I am letting go because…
I am letting go because…
I am letting go because…
I am letting go because…
I am letting go because…
I am letting go because…
With love,
Andreea
